The Longer Story

 

If you’re curious about what shaped this work – and me – here’s more...

 

Years ago I was Kali, the invincible superwoman at university, studying for a BA in English and Social Anthropology.

 

I mistakenly thought that success meant getting top grades, eating the ‘perfect’ diet of steamed veggies and boiled eggs for dinner, walking 5km a day, and showing the world a more held-together version of myself.

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I was the one who came into lectures smiling and laughing, chatting to lecturers, reading all the books, and easily making light friends.

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I was also the one whose gut was screaming for less stress. I looked like I had my shit together, when it was absolutely (literally and figuratively) falling apart. I struggled to access joy or rest without earning it, and at 21 I was given a Crohn’s diagnosis.

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I learned the hard way that following all the “health rules” doesn’t equal being healthy. And that changing your body means very little if the story in your head – the one laced with pressure, comparison, and perfectionism – stays the same.

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I came to understand that becoming your own best friend isn’t a luxury – it’s essential for real, moment-to-moment freedom.

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Freedom from the shoulds.
Freedom from the inner whip I’d held to my own back.
Freedom from living someone else’s idea of “enough.”

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Slowly I began catching myself trying to “fix” my body out of fear. I made a commitment to start loving on my body. To speak to myself more gently. To loosen the knots in my own mind.

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I chose to dedicate myself to a journey of discovering how to unravel the tangle of “crazy” in my head.

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I listened to self-love teachers and found wisdom in the Hay House summits. I explored Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurveda. I did my Level 2 training as an EFT coach and became fascinated by all things brain science and the power that we hold.

 

I dived into a year of full-time study with the Queen of Self Love, Christine Arylo. I trained in space-holding with Sistership Circle. And I began to live – not just learn – this work.

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I discovered that loving yourself isn’t just about what you see in the mirror – it’s about how you speak to yourself, how you start your day, how you make choices, and where you place your boundaries.

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I discovered that becoming your own best friend – and living life on your terms – is the most freeing journey you’ll ever take.

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Now, I get to guide other women as they navigate their own version of this journey. I hold space for deep remembering. For unlearning the rules that never fitted. For listening inward. For standing in softness – and strength.

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If you’re still reading – thank you. I’d love to meet you.

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